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Life Lessons from Duplo (and my 6 year old)

Posted by shaunhoon on July 18, 2017
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Duplo2Just yesterday, I picked up where Siena left off with her Duplo set after she went out with her mum. I tried to eliminate as many parts as possible, so that I can use the excess bricks to build more items. In the process, I created a minimalistic structure with elements of vernacular architecture, which I was rather proud of.

Imagine two 3 stories tree house held together by a common rooftop that bears the resemblance of a 16th century castle, supported by two key panels. Yes, it looked wobbly but was strong enough to stand on it’s own, if left untouched. And I had it completed just in time for Siena’s return.

Unfortunately, I trusted Siena to play with my delicate construction and watched the effort collapsed before my eyes. The pain was only amplified by the fact that I had not taken any picture of my proud construction.

As a parent, I should have known better than to leave any delicate possession in the hand of my kids. Was I surprised? No. Heart broken? You bet!

Needless to say, Siena got her punishment with my silent treatment throughout dinner. After that, I made her help in the reconstructing every element of the building exactly the same way – a decision proven to be futile, as she was just as stubborn as me, with a mind of her own when it comes to creative works. I relented by spending the rest of the evening watching her pieced together her own version of the building all by herself.

Right about midnight before I headed to bed, I walked past her finished apartment and decided to give it another go. Hours later, the result was astonishing.

With Siena’s inspiration and a little imagination, I constructed towering Rapunzel castle, a final product that was even more impressive than the earlier version. This would never have been possible if things had fallen into place perfectly earlier in the day. Funny how my Duplo moment is as much a metaphor for life, as it is for play.

The reaction on Siena and Alannah’s face on their new Duplo construction this morning was worth every effort. Before that, I made sure I took plenty of photos, expecting full well that it may return to ground zero the moment I get home.

Life on the Other Side…

Posted by shaunhoon on April 6, 2017
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familyMy eldest daughter Siena is turning Six in a few days time. It is a big deal for our household because she’s been counting down to this day ever since her last birthday.

I remember one of the most stressful periods of my life had been the months leading up to the birth of Siena. With my wife being a Type One Diabetic, I was extremely anxious about the chances of complications to both the mother and child’s health. And then, I worried about how I would ever be able to afford to usher in this insurmountable financial burden into our family. Would I ever be good enough a father? What would happen to all the freedom that I once enjoyed?

So, when I was told that young people are reluctant to get married and have kids, I could totally understand where they are coming from.

After all, why would anyone want to have kids when they cost $250,000 a piece to raise – by the time they graduate from universities? With all the sacrifices that you have to give up on for their wellbeing and happiness, where is the ROI (return on investment)?

As Siena turns Six along with Alannah turning Three in July, if you were to ask me today whether or not I would trade anything for this experience of being a parent, I will tell you in a heartbeat, No.

I know that it would be impossible for you to relate to, until you’ve walked through this journey yourself.

But I will try to give you a glimpse of the joy  and reality of parenthood by: Sharing with you the very practical challenges that you are going to face and also tell you how being a father has made me a better person.

1/ Freedom.

 Will I lose my freedom when I have kids?

The short answer is, Yes! But what you will gain in return would be immensely more valuable than any freedom you could ever enjoy; it is a new sense of purpose called parenting. Parenting means all of a sudden, you are now directly responsible for someone else’s life. It is scary, but it is also the best motivation guru you will ever need to drive you to work harder and strive to become a better person.

2/ Friends. 

Will I lose all my drinking mates when I have kids?

Truth is, you would already have lost most of them the minute you got married. Having a kid will just put the final nail to the coffin. However, what you are about to gain is a profound sense of connection with an entire new tribe of people from all ages, sex, race and religion that you never knew existed; called parents. The bond you will form with these people stems from a common understanding and empathy for the sleepless nights that you will go through, worried about the time when the fever of your baby hits above 39c; the time it breaks your heart into a million little pieces, when your daughter accidentally knocks off her front tooth while throwing tantrum on the floor. That, along with countless of stories that you will learn to appreciate which had meant absolutely nothing to you before becoming a parent.

I can’t tell you the number of times I have used my “daughters” card to strike a really meaningful conversation and forge a deep relationship with friends who were once stranger.

This connection is not limited to only the people outside your circles, in fact, you will begin to appreciate and relate to your parents on a level that you never knew existed.

3/ Career 

Will my work performance decline because of all the distractions that come with having a child?

No doubt, you’re going to have less time for work if you are like most parents. Unless you have a different priority, or that you are able to find a replacement to cook, feed, change, bath, do schools runs and______fill in the blanks. No matter how great a help you may get, there will never be a replacement for doing it yourself.

Back to my work, what I also learned was how much more focused I have become since being a dad. My productivity essentially doubled because of the need to achieve more with the less amount of time spent in the office.

It is incredible how when you need to double your salary for your family, you would figure out a way to make it happen. Human beings are some of the most adaptive and resilient creatures on earth, when push comes to shove, we’d find a solution.

How has being a parent made me a better person?

1/ Perspective

Parenthood has shifted me from being a self-centered individual to being a more compassionate and inclusive person. I have grown to draw joy from someone else’s happiness other than my own. It has taught me the beauty of giving as opposed to taking. And it has caused me to take the need of the community and the surrounding environment more seriously because it is now in my interest to build a better world that my children and their children can grow up and excel in.

Leadership

Being a parent has made me a better leader. For nothing else, my kids have trained me to empathize more and be more patient with the people I lead by looking at things from a different point of view. I have a theory for the real test of your leadership skill; if you can successfully get your children to listen to you 80% of the time, you are set as a leader. Sometimes (infact, most of the time) you staff listen to you because they have to. Your kids are not paid to do so (at least they thought).

Relationship

Above all, being a parent has made me a better husband. Looking into the eyes of my children reminds me to love and cherish my wife more everyday, because of the sacrifices and commitments that she has made to the family and to my precious children.

Granted, with all that our parents have done for us, I often to wondered how I would ever be able to repay them back? I was convinced that it’s impossible until one day I stumbled upon the answer when I witnessed the pure joy on mum and dad’s faces from playing with their grand children.

Just as you are seated on the other side of the fence having difficulties imagining a life tied down with the weight and enormity of parenthood, Deon and I often wondered how it was even possible for us to have lived through our entire youth before our two daughters came along.

This article is adapted from my speech delivered to a group of young people contemplating on the possibility of starting a family in their foreseeable future. 

Chasing Inspirations: Lessons from the making of Inspire Magazine

Posted by shaunhoon on January 16, 2017
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Every business is different. What applied to me may not be applicable to you. Which is why instead of prescribing you with a top 10 formula on what you should do to succeed in your business, I’d share with you some of my personal journey of running Inspire Magazine.

Hopefully you’d be able to draw some lessons that are relevant to your own situation. For nothing else, I hope that the sharing would inspire you to pick up a copy of the magazine, and learn from the stories of other people to inspire your to succeed.

Part 1 (Before Inspire Magazine)

Our dream was never to start a magazine publication.

Because I knew how difficult it was to run a magazine publication first hand, having worked for Asia Inc magazine during the early stage of my career. Truth be told, Inspire magazine was not even my idea to begin with (more on that later).

We started a marketing consulting agency called Catalyst with the idea of being a marketing department outpost for small businesses. We wanted to be the go-to guy for creative ideas to solve problems and improve businesses.

Our motto was to “Spark the economy”, we believe that the economy is made out individual businesses. We were idealistic and bold, thinking we could change the world.

We were wrong.

Few months into the business, we realized that Brunei companies do not pay for ideas. Not to us anyway. Except for when they are engaging foreign consultants, you know, the type who wear the well fitted, tailor-made suits, but that’s a whole other story. Our initial business model almost got our business busted, had it not been our willingness to adapt to what was required for survivor.

My background.

I have the bliss of seeing complex situation with a pair of simple lenses and a natural ability to convey the message in a format that everyone can understand. Instead of selling ideas, companies started coming to me to help craft their corporate messages. I started accepting copy-writing jobs from banks and other major corporations, jobs that had nothing to do with the list of items we offered on our service menu.

Our first magazine project was The Brunei SME Bulletin by MIPR. The project wasn’t even ours to start with. We were the sub-contractor who did all the work for a guy who tendered in the project but had no idea how to do it. As the middle guy, he made most of the money while we did most of the work. We saw the opportunity to get ourselves noticed and didn’t mind the hardwork. We published two issues of the SME Bulletin before it was scraped when there was a change in the cabinet.

[Lessons]

[ Don’t be afraid of being taken advantage of. In business and in life, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Even if you may seem to be at the short end of the stick, you would have gained some valuable experiences from the encounter. We wouldn’t have started so many magazines, had we been too concerned about our “return on investment” with this subcontracting job.]

With this experience, we had an idea of starting a business magazine of our own called Vision 2035 in the form of an app. We thought it was a brilliant idea for the nation’s development; helping the entire country to fix their eyes on the national agenda through a periodic publication. What a better way keep everyone focused, we thought. We even used this idea to participate in the LEAP Grant competition by the BEDB. We didn’t win the competition, so we fine-tuned the proposal and took it to the corporations for sponsorship support. No one showed any interest neither. Instead, a cement company got back to us with the idea of staring a magazine about homes.

We hated the idea.

First, we did not have any experience in the department of home and lifestyle. Second, none of us in our team had any background in interior design or architecture. But, we needed the money to stay in Business.

Six months after the initial meeting with the cement company, we launched the first home & lifestyle magazine in Brunei and called it BHC magazine. It was a neat and simple publication that focused (instead) on the stories of Bruneian’s lifestyle at home, with photos referencing their beautiful decorations and designs, telling the stories of the homeowners and their family. It was a perfect recipe for the Brunei readers who love their home and build their ecosystem around the family. We never pretended to be what we were not from the start. And the readers appreciated that. The popularity of the publication soared as a result.

[Be like water (Bruce Lee), be like a chameleon (lizard that changes color). What you wrote on the business plan seldom pens out to be what you actually do. Have the humility to adapt to what the real environment demands of. It is always about the customers. Park your ego at the door the moment you decide you want to get into business. You have a team of people depending on your ability to change (your colors) to feed.]

We ran into trouble in only our second issue. Our inexperience in publishing  got the better of us. We made a major mistake of publishing images of a magnificent house that turned out to be blurred and unfocused. The entire team was devastated. The magazine looked amateurish and substandard because of that particular article. We felt like we have let the readers, the sponsors and also the home owner down. One of the reasons for such devastation was that, as a new publisher, we were subjected to the judgment of the few projects we did. There were no other ways for us to show for our work. In retrospect, the biggest and harshest critique had probably been myself, all in a quest for perfection.

Looking back, I’m glad we made the mistake early in our publishing career, because we had not allowed the repeat of the same mistake since. What seemed to be the biggest problem of that day looks so trivial in hindsight. Aside from the homeowner, whom we have since apologized to, I bet no one else have the slightest, most remote recollection of the pictures I’m talking about.

[Don’t be too consumed by your mistakes, no matter how great it may seem. Truth is, you will make plenty of mistakes throughout your business endeavor. Mistakes mean that you are trying, making progress and innovating. Mistakes are just a part of your learning. It is ok to grief over a mistake, but don’t lose sleep over it. Don’t let the mistake own you. The best way to own up to a wrongdoing is to not repeat it. I promise, 5 years later, no one would remember it, not even you.]

[Believe in serendipity. Our mission for Catalyst was to “Spark the Economy”. That was our BHAG (Big Hairy and Audacious Goal). Frankly, even if it sounded logical, we didn’t quite believe we could pull it off. We were just a few guys with some ideas, dreaming out the perfect mission statement. Two years after abandoning our dream of “Sparking the Economy, inadvertently, BHC magazine became the indispensable tool for the home industry to communicate and promote their products and services. The home industry is the second most important economic engine in Brunei after the Oil & Gas industry.]

Part 2. The Making of Inspire Magazine

So, how did Inspire Magazine get started?

Back in the second year of BHC magazine, we introduced a small section during Hari Raya and subsequently, during Chinese New Year by reaching out to some of Brunei’s biggest names and personalities to post their greetings on our featured columns. Those postings turned out to be the most read section in our magazine. The amount of feedback, shares and buzz they created were simply unprecedented. It turned out that there was a distinct interest in our community to read about other people’s stories.

Heeding this idea, our previous designer Azeem came up with the brilliant idea of starting a magazine about successful people in Brunei. Through many debates and self-examinations, we decided that we did not want to start a magazine like Tatler or Prestige; that glamourise the rich and famous. We told ourselves that if we were to do it, we wanted to dedicate our time into producing a publication that is meaningful to the society and make a difference.

And hence we started coming up with a series of ideas of what we wanted the magazine to do: to be a vehicle to recognize ordinary people doing extraordinary work; a source of inspiration for other Bruneians to look up to and strive for; a catalyst for change to improve livelihood.

That was how Inspire was born.

[You do not need to be the hero or the person with the best idea. Listen to the people around you. Wisdom lies in the ability to filter out the best advice and apply them into good use. BHC magazine was someone else’s idea, and so was Inspire magazine.]

We started our first issue on Brunei’s Creative Industry, highlighting some of the most outstanding talents in the creative realm, featuring Fakhrul Razi on the cover. Our second issue that featured 50 of Brunei’s Most influential Women held all the newsstand record as the most number of magazines ever sold in the country up until today.

We continued to aspire to break boundaries and push ourselves to outdo our previous publications. We subsequently published Choose Happiness and Ordinary Heroes in the first year; two of my most favorite publications to date. I can spend all day talking about these two issues like I’ve just written them yesterday.

[Never be satisfied with the status quo. Always challenge yourself to become better, always try to outdo your previous record. Be your own best competitor. Do it with zest, do it with plenty of gusto.]

In Choose Happiness, we took the bold step of printing just the two words on the yellow cover with a smiley face at the bottom. The gamble paid off. This became one of the most instantly recognizable publication on the newsstand, and we pride ourselves in coming up with the original idea.

It is still a cover I am most proud of up until today. You need to understand the context before you can appreciate what this simple cover meant to us. We really really believe in the importance of a good cover in reflecting the quality of any publication. The amount of emphasis in choosing the right person, the kind of image to portray and the messages is no joke. At times, my colleague and I would end up not talking to each other for a few days simply because we can’t agree on trivial elements on the cover (it is a miracle that we have not killed each other in the name of love for what we do). So, you can imagine the kind of pressure we set for ourselves when we turned in the unanimous decision to run a cover with a blank sheet of yellow cover and just two simple words.

For nothing else, with this issue I learned about a very important secret in life; Happiness is always a choice, not an endeavor or an aspiration.

In Ordinary Heroes, I had the honour of interviewing Lt Redzki who died 2 weeks after our meeting. It made me realize the meaning and significance of my job, one that I’m proud to call my vocation. That I am not just writing a story, but helping to draft a legacy for the person I am writing about, and for his family.

Of the many people I interviewed for the past few years, three of the most promising, most extraordinary young people have since passed on; Lt Redzki, Wan Krisnadi and recently Shawn Narcis, all of them had a reputation that precedes their name.

[We are all mortal. People die. Not just old people. How do you live your life will have a direct consequence on how you’d be remembered . Be like Shawn (Narcis)]

What happened to BHC Magazine?

After two years of publishing BHC Magazine, we realized that change was inevitable for the continuous growth of our content, our team and the company’s profitability. We were unable to agree on the same direction to move forward, and ended up parting ways with the sponsor.

It was a huge risk departing from BHC, because it meant that we were on our own; no financial backing, no endorsement. We walked away from a place that we poured our heart and soul into for two years.

For the first time in two years, we felt vulnerable and scared. I remembered looking into my colleagues’ eyes, asking each other: what had we gotten ourselves into?

On the other hand, we also felt an undeniable sense of peace. Liberated from the accountability to any particular organization but our own two hands.

We-Were-Freed!

[Take Risks! Be ready to walk away from your comfort zone. Draw confidence from your past achievements. Have faith. Know that there will always be better things waiting in-store for you.]

Within a month, we launched the 2.0 version of BHC and called it Inspire Living. We wanted it to  uplift people’s life with a fresh new perspective. We figured, if Inspire magazine feeds the mind and soul, Inspire Living would play it’s part of improving one’s wellbeing starting from their home.

That moment on, we asked ourselves two very important questions: What if we could set our own rules? How do we kick our own ass? In no time, we started setting Our-Own-Rules and created one issue after another with boldness, innovation and imagination that surpassed anything we have ever done before.

[Make your own Rules. The greatest gift of being your own boss is the ability to listen to your guts and make decision and be held accountable to yourself. Empower yourself. Write your own set of rules. Do not be held hostage by other people’s perimeters.]

[Never stop asking yourself: How to kick your own ass? As an entrepreneur, it is good question to be asking yourself from time to time. Because if you don’t, sooner or later, someone else would come along ask the question for you. And by the time that happens, it will be too late.]

How did we kick our own ass?

Along that time, I traveled to Bangkok and visited a bookshop. There, I opened up a beautiful architecture book filled with pictures of the most amazing houses in Asia. I started to imagine what it would be like if those mansions were featured on our magazines. What does it take for me to source this kind of photos and editorial content? I thought to myself. I started dreaming about traveling to different countries with our photographer, knocking on doors, taking pictures of the most beautiful houses in this part of the world. That would be a dream come true for me.

I took a picture of the book cover and the publisher’s information on the inside page and walked away from the bookstore, forgetting about it altogether.

Back in my office one afternoon, as I was drifting off at work scrolling through the past photos on my phone, I came across the picture of the architecture book that I once took in Bangkok.

And I had one of those eureka moment!

“Why not try reaching out to the universe and see what happen?” I said to myself.

I put down the phone and googled the publisher and made a proposal for them to share their content with me on Inspire Living magazine. The rest was history.  To next to no credit of mine, Inspire Living was graced by the pictures of the best, the most outstanding houses in the whole of Asia on our cover, month after month ever since.

The standard of the magazine improved 100 fold overnight. That, along with a thousand little things we did by asking ourselves to kick our own ass had been a source of inspiration for all of our team in everything we do.

[Travel. The best business ideas often come from travels. Some of the greatest business people I’ve interviewed were successful not because they are any smarter than you. But because they have a wider exposure by observing how others do it outside of their country. And have the courage and determination of bringing it back to make it work. If you think traveling is expensive, try staying put.]

[Reach out to the Universe. Allow yourself to dream. Embrace wishful thinking. But don’t stop there, act on it. Because you’d have zero chance of making it happen if you don’t try. Sometimes you may just get lucky – look at us!]

 

Meeting the Giants

Posted by shaunhoon on May 24, 2016
Posted in: Entrepreneurship. 1 Comment

10 Unpublished Stories of the Extraordinary People I Interviewed.

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I was invited by UBD to share my experience on their media advocacy program this morning. Instead of teaching them how to write better or how to be a better  media professional one day, I thought it would be more interesting to share with them the behind-the-scene stories that I have not shared in the public. I think the university lecturer can do a much better job teaching the students technical writing skills.

What I’m about to share though, are unique, because these are all my stories. Not even the best professor in the world can duplicate. I have interviewed plenty more outstanding minds and amazing people throughout my career that are not included in this journal. I chose these 10 stories exactly for this particular context.

Going through this experience, I’m personally surprised by some of the new lessons I discovered along the way. I hope you too, would be able to share the joy in my work.

Enjoy!

 

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The World is Flat

Posted by shaunhoon on November 7, 2015
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As the founding curator of Global Shapers in Bandar Seri Begawan, I was invited to attend the Annual Curators Meeting in Geneva in August. Global Shapers is an initiative by the World Economic Forum to empower the brightest and most promising young leaders in their respective cities to make a difference in their communities. Each year, it brings together the leaders from each hub for a meeting in Switzerland to share best practices and to discuss agendas.
Before going to the event, part of me thought that as a representative from one of the tiniest countries in the world, I would not be good enough to contribute effectively to a meeting which included 450 of the brightest young leaders from all over the world.

 

When I arrived there, I found myself feeling less intimidated by the scale of the event as I quickly warmed up to my surroundings. This was due to the superb organising committee who came up with a wide variety of programs aimed at breaking the ice between participants. Despite my preconceived notions, the majority of the people who I met were not much different from anyone else, in the way they dressed, interacted and behaved.

 

What was interesting was that I noticed even the candidates from USA shared some of the same challenges, doubts and vulnerabilities in forming a new Global Shaper hub for the first time as a Curator. On the other hand, the candidates from China had just as much conviction about environmental and social issues as anyone else in the room. The smartest people I met were not from the most developed countries, in fact, two of the most outstanding people were from Mongolia and Dar es Salaam, Tanzania respectively. I was also blown away by the very artistic and creative ideas that were voiced by a confident woman from Francis Town, Botswana.

 

In the five days that I spent connecting with various people from around the world, I learnt a lot not just from people who were smarter than me; but from people with different expertise, strengths and values. For example, I learned the value of thinking big while sitting on a bus next to a 27 year old from Ireland who had started a movement to acquire a bank building and to change the way people look at banking – he’d created a bank where hustlers, builders and creative deposit ideas lend talents and invest connections (www.thebankofinvention.com).

 

I learned about the value of integrity from a Ghanaian journalist who spoke passionately about not compromising our standards regarding certain “grey” areas which many people just ignore. I learned not to take our peaceful country for granted when one morning, a teammate walked into our group clearly distraught –sharing with us that a family member had just been murdered by the military dictator in Burundi during the night. I was brought to tears by one of the most moving speeches that I’ve ever heard, not one that was delivered on the stage but from the floor, by this deeply compassionate Indian delegate who pulled everyone together through his gift exchange initiative.

 

Incidentally, two of the best buddies I met were from India. They were two of the funniest, weirdest and most thoughtful people (one of them actually quit using smart phones about a year ago in a protest to regain freedom). I can go on and on about the experiences I had and the people I met, but here are my observations:

 

It is indeed true that regardless of our race, culture or religion, we have more in common with each other, than we have differences.

 

Secondly, the world has never been more flat than it is today. The intellectual gap between the most developed country and the least has never been closer. Why? We have the same access to Google, we watch the same Ted Talks and share the same viral videos on YouTube.

 

On my 13-hour flight back home, I looked through some of the profiles of the friends who I’d met on TopLink (an app built for the event program). I realised that most of the people who I’d met have astounding backgrounds: some started their own businesses from ground up; some hold significant titles in the government sectors; some hold high profile jobs for multinational companies; some are shaping the community through their work in the education sector; while others were founders of their own NGOs, so on and so forth. I also realised that these seemingly extraordinary people I read about just a moment ago were just ordinary people like the smart friends I have back in Brunei. The only difference between them and those that I have in Brunei is that they mainly come from bigger countries, with bigger populations and have more exposure.

 

However, what separates the Global Shapers from everyone else is that they have a very different belief system. They don’t just think about changing the world; as we speak, they are all around the world, rolling up their sleeves and making the world a better place. The most important discovery above all else is that, you and I too can shape the world the way they do, if we share this same belief!

 

 

Global Shapers Bandar Seri Begawan is now recruiting! If you are between the ages of 20 and 29, have attained outstanding achievements in your field, exhibit exemplary leadership qualities and are community minded, we invite you to apply by sending your CV to Bandar-seri-begawan@globalshapers.org.

 

You can learn more about us at GlobalShapers.org.

 

Special tribute to

 

* Marshal Pollard, Hao Yang, Lkhagva Erdene & Deus Valentine, Katlego Kolayane – Kesupile, Peter Edgar, Gary Al-Smith, Olivier Manirankunda, Mark Stone, Sudarshan Chitale & Anand Chitravanshi and Reem Jabak.

   
    
    
    
    
   
 

 

 
 

   

Those Tiny Little Feet (of My Irreplaceable Grandma)

Posted by shaunhoon on December 26, 2014
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IMG_grandma Treasured Memories

My uncle always says that: “There’s no point crying and moaning when one is gone; what matters is how you treat each other when they were still around.”

I didn’t see him shed too many tears during the passing of grandma – for a very good reason, of course. It was however, a very difficult act for me to follow, especially when I know that I am guilty of many shortcomings myself.

When I was alone with Lita today (Grandma’s dear helper for 22 years) while seated next to Grandma in her coffin chiller, I curiously asked Lita who was grandma’s favorite grandchild. It was a question that had never occurred to me at all until Eddy brought it up on Whatsapp today.

Without skipping a heartbeat, Lita responded that it was me. While a part of me was overwhelmed with warmth, joy and love and a tiny sense of victory; the other part of me was crushed into a million little pieces. I tried to suppress my tears that very moment, because I knew deep down inside that I was not worthy.

Growing up, I secretly despised the fact that I was the one who got the most scolding from grandma. At one stage of my life, I was even convinced that she hated me.

Nothing I did was ever good enough for her. She always held me to military standards; be it my grades, the clothes I wear, my seating posture or even with my hairstyle.

There were always rules and boundaries for us to abide to; like how to behave at the dinner table – who gets to eat first, who to greet, how to address the elders and the never ending list of what-not-to-dos during Chinese New Year.

And whenever there was a feud between my cousin and me, I would always be the one to get the blame. Grandma to me was a strict communist leader that could send shiver to my spine with just one look.

Still, she hasn’t changed after all these years. The other day, she paid me a surprise visit with Aunty Ling to a business event that I organised. Later on when I caught up with her, she complained that I did not publicly acknowledge her presence. Despite the comment, that day was probably one of the proudest moment of my professional career because I was being witnessed by grandma while I was seated on stage.

I treasure the moments I spend with grandma whenever I come to KB. I love giving her foot massage, in exchange for juicy stories that she would tell me about her past. There was always something new that I would learn about our heritage with each interaction with grandma. That, as well as getting an update from her about the affairs of all my relatives from all over the world was simply priceless (I tried to pass on the skills to my 3 year old daughter to very little success, although Siena would always earn a big angpow whenever she touched Grandma’s feet).

Grandma was like a wise old owl who knows about anything and everything. While she doesn’t have any particular set of academic qualifications, she advocates learning about life through Hong Kong Drama series. Grandma would always asked us to pay attention to the bad guys on TV for it is through watching the villains that you learn how to avoid pitfalls of the society. She could dissect a difficult problem with great clarity and provide the most pragmatic set of solutions.

Grandma possessed pair of tiny feet that were soft like silk; she preferred a more gentle pressure on her feet in the recent years as her tolerance for pain deteriorated. She always smiled when I asked her how she maintained her beautiful skins, thinking that it was one of my sweet talks for the old lady. Boy, am I going to miss that smooth, tender texture of grandma’s feet for as long as I can remember.

Being a father now, and a leader of my organization, I understand that grandma’s strictness was simply an expression of love; out of kindness and concerns that she had for me. Although she didn’t say much, I knew deep inside that she would have been very proud of my work that day at the event.

To the woman who tirelessly raised up 8 outstanding children, 19 grandkids and 8 great grand children who respect and adore her to bits, the word ‘Success’ seems to be an understatement – diluted in the overused context of our society today- to describe grandma’s achievements.

Such is a life well lived.

One that is worthy to be honored, cherished and celebrated.

5 (surprising) life lessons I learnt from living in Australia

Posted by shaunhoon on November 15, 2014
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Picture: Maki at Hyde Park, WA

Picture: Maki at Hyde Park, WA

Below is a sharing I prepared for an Australian Alumini get together. If you’re thinking of moving to Australia, this may benefit you:

I have spent half my life living in Australia. I first went to Perth at the age of 14 to pursue my further education. I was there for 5 years. After returning to Brunei for my professional career for a few years, I migrated back to Australia for 7 years, before moving back to Brunei again.

Naturally, having spent such a long time living in Australia, the country has influenced and shaped my much of my character, perspective about life and my value systems.

There are many things I love about ‘Down Under’, and like most Aussies, there are equally as much I resisted about it too; the absurd speed limits and the insane number speed traps on the road, the ridiculous property prices, gas prices, parking prices, and a dozen other items plus the painful isolation from the rest of the world, to name a few.

But I digress.

Here are 5 of the surprising life lessons I picked up along the way, while living there.

  1. Manners

One of my very early memories of Australia was from being told off by a service attendant behind the tourist information desk. For those of you who have been to Australia, you can testify that the customer service is not quite like Asia, where you are being treated like a king.

Looking back, the reason I was being “unkindly treated” was to a certain extent, my fault. The attendant greeted me ‘good morning’ and I failed to respond. Instead I proceeded straight with my inquiry.

Where I came from, it was the service attendant’s job to greet; and my job to ignore. Without much hesitation that morning, the attendant put me in my place by insisting that I returned her greeting before answering my questions.

Since then, I began to notice the amount of ‘please’ and ‘thank you’s’ that were being exchanged when people request help from the waiter and waitresses for even just a glass of water.

I realized that the amount of customer service you get is a direct reflection of the attitude you exude. In retrospect, perhaps there was nothing wrong with the customer service culture in Australia; we just need to treat everyone with equal respect!

  1. Pride

I was often intimidated by the bus drivers in Australia to the extent that I would be mindful to bring enough change, to avoid being frowned upon.

In Australia, a bus driver is not a just a bus driver. He is a professional who reaches your stop on time, and ensure the safety and comfort of all the passengers. He is the guy or gal who is knowledgeable about his route, his operation and I wouldn’t be surprised if he knows about the mechanics of the bus too.

He would have no problem in chasing you out of the bus with full authority, if he catches you eating your burger on board. During summer, he would pull his socks all the way up his ankle, in his seriously short khakis and while looking extremely proud in the funny uniform.

Unsurprisingly, he probably makes as much money as you do; while sending you to work in your suit and tie.

Being professional doesn’t stop at just the bus drivers. You would find that most workers in Australia are very knowledgable and take great pride at their work.

What I learned from the Australians are that, when you take pride in your work, and conduct your work professionally, no one can look down at you, even if you wear your pair of socks knee high.

  1. Quality

I spend 3 years selling shoes in Australia. After a while, I was able to predict the kind of shoes that a typical Australian would pick, versus the tourists from Asia.

The pair of shoes that a typical Australian woman buys would often be the boring, dark colored ugly pair of leather shoes that often come with wider toe space for extra comfort. The Australian want a pair of shoes that they could essentially ”live in”.

The Asian women on the other hand would go to the sale section, racking up the prettiest and the most uncomfortable pair of heels, which they would probably wear once in a blue moon. They would typically purchase 3 pairs of them for the price of what an Aussie woman would pay for one.

If you understand the history, culture and the proximity of the Australian people, you would be able to rationalize such behavior to their isolation from the rest of the world. Australians are raised to be very self reliant and independent. As such, they are very pragmatic people who choose practicality and quality above anything else.

Looking through my boring selections on my shoe rack today with many of my rugged leather shoes from more than 3 years ago; you could understand where the influence has come from.

I have unconsciously applied much of this attitude to my work and my life today.

  1. Balance

During my early career in Asia, I used to take great pride in telling people that I worked during weekend. This changed when I started my career in Australia.

The Aussies take their weekend almost as seriously as their national religion: AFL. Their weekend seems to start at 3pm on Friday over pints of beers at the pub. They are the masters of enjoyment when it comes to weekend, often spending the time in the park, the beach or the sports arena with their family and their dogs doing absolutely nothing at all.

The Australians seem to live out to the full notion of the adage that “there is more to life than work” than any other culture I know. I suspect this is the reason why they attract so many migrant there to experience the good life. And I wouldn’t be surprised if this is also the reason why they produce such a vibrant economy that is highly productive, creative and sustainable.

  1. The World

Lastly, you would have missed the bigger opportunity if your sole intention to go to Australia was to learn a bit of English and to be exposed to the Western culture.

Australia is like a big melting pot of different races. Walking down the street, you would bump into people from all over the world. If you were a food lover, Australia would be a gastronomical paradise.

There is a saying that best Hong Kong dim sum in the world can be found in the China Town of Melbourne, arguably the best Italian pasta – in Ciao Italia, South Perth (according to my humble judgement) and the freshest piece of Sushi is fished out directly from the Sydney fish market.

One of the most rewarding experiences for me in Australia was definitely the diverse group of people that I met and kept in touch with, until today.

I learned about the value of hard work and resiliency from my friends in Hong Kong; politeness and attention to detail from my Japanese friends; style and how to be forthright from my French associates, and how to be street smart from South African colleagues. All of these would not have been possible, had it not been my stay in Australia.

Surely, you would not be immune to a certain amount of anti-foreigners sentiment when you live in Australia. It is natural that some of the more conservative and less exposed Aussies may view you as a threat to their job and livelihood. I have personally received my share of racial slurs during my stay there. However, I have also been the recipient of great love, grace and kindness from total strangers who are Australian too.

At the end of the day, I am a better person because of my experience in Australia, and I wish all of you could be richer because of your endeavor down under.

Inspire Living – Launch Speech

Posted by shaunhoon on August 14, 2014
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Photo Credit | Brunei Times

A Better Way of Living!

Welcome to the launch of Inspire Living Magazine.

Many of you may be wondering why after 2 years, we are embarking on the publishing of a new home and lifestyle magazine.

The short answer is simply this: we are here to create a better, more exciting magazine. One which has a fresh, dynamic look; and has more relevant and interesting information.

Before starting this project we asked ourselves -: how can we produce a better magazine; one which will provide our readers with a holistic inspirational ideas for a better way of living?

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Brunei’s Top 50 Most Influential Women speech | Letter to Siena

Posted by shaunhoon on April 23, 2014
Posted in: Entrepreneurship. Tagged: #lisa ibrahim. Leave a comment

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This is the speech I gave this morning at the release of our Women’s Issue of Inspire magazine. It is also a speech written for my daughter when she is old enough to understand one day. Hope she will find her purpose in life and make a difference; just like the 50 women (and some) featured in the magazine. But whatever she does, I hope she knows that there is nothing more she can do to earn our adoration, approval and unconditional love for her. Lisa Ibrahim will understand. 

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A Better Place

Posted by shaunhoon on November 2, 2013
Posted in: Entrepreneurship. 1 Comment

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I found myself repeating the same story many times a day. All of which are to the people who are genuinely concerned about our well being and have sympathy for my family and I.

As a company man, I thought that it may be more efficient in documenting the FAQ (Frequently asked questions) online, so that my friends near and a far could find out first hand information about our situation.

If you see me in person in the near future, you could let me know that you’ve read my blog so I would not need to bore you with the details.

For a few days, our little incident seemed like the biggest news that matters, at least to us, and our close friends. But really, there’s so much more important things that deserve your attention and help. We hope you’d learn from our experience and find strength in confronting whatever challenge you have ahead.

 

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